Perception v perspective: Why it’s important to have a right perspective in a socially anxious world
This blog was meant to go out on Tuesday, but due to a minor injury I experienced ( by that I mean I broke my pinky) I took a little break from typing. I’ve had this topic on my mind to share for over a week now that really was birthed out of some conversations I found myself in with people around me.
It’s been a wild few weeks… I fractured a finger, I’ve had the busiest week at work, I’ve got workshops and classes after hours… I am also in the process of learning how to communicate better, which is important for someone who wants to help you frame your world with words that make a difference.
Today I want to touch on a thought that that was birthed out of a conversation I had with someone who for the purposes of this post will remain anonymous. I wanted to talk about it today as it’s something I believe most of us from the millennial generation to the gen Z group are really challenged by. The digital world has brought some useful gifts, but they have come wrapped up in all kind of challenges.
The need for speed
The need to be seen
The need to to be approved and accepted by all
The need to be better
The pressure has never been greater in as much as the world has never been so connected to the point that we are in constant touch with several pressure points all at the same time. And whilst we’re on this point, we are tempted if not allowing ourselves to compete with the profiles that surround us.
I work in social media and have done so for the past 8 years. I am well aware of the impact it can have on our personal lives and businesses. We strive to be the best, to show the best, and hide the rest. I do believe that whilst I have not arrived here that this really is about a juggle of perception verse perspective.
Mal Fletcher a media and social futurist describes social media best in this interview when he says, “it’s a great tool, but a terrible master.”
When we start to measure and compare ourselves by the lives or feeds of someone else, then we should bear in mind that what you see is the cover of a complex book. Growing up, I was always told never to judge a book by its cover because you never know what’s under it. There are known influencers and celebrities that in the light of day look picture perfect but if you should inspect under the hood have are surrounded by intense pressures to be perfect in an imperfect world.
On one hand, we have the perception of what we should look like, who we should be, what kind of food we should like, what we should do to have fun, what we should talk like, how we should laugh, and all the other requirements that lend us to keeping up appearances. Those are the people posting and blogging and struggling to feel worthy or accepted. On the other hand, we have people who see what people are posting and constantly compare themselves to those who are seemingly living their best life on Instagram, Facebook, and whatever social media you might subscribe too. It’s a channel wide issue. It’s a generation-wide issue.
Have you ever heard the saying, walk a mile in my shoes? We judge people without really knowing the full picture, and contrary to appearances those 9 squares on Instagram or that post on Facebook can’t fully convey the reality of any given situation. I’m not saying that everyone on social media is challenged in one particular way or in one particular state, but I do believe that it’s important for us individually and as a business to figure out who we are and how to accept ourselves. It’s a journey, and I for one am on that journey just the same. Learning to embrace the grace that we have been afforded today.
I write this blog in the hope to be transparent about my journey as a young business owner, social media manager, and a girl with her own story passionate about helping bring courage to others in theirs. If you can relate to this or have any thoughts, questions, or ideas for future topics that you might want me to expand on, then please do get in touch with me. Drop me an email firstname.lastname@example.org, I would love to stay in touch.
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